Sunday, June 14, 2009

My Sixgrader

Were doing their home work last night my 4Th grader has a home work about his dream, what he wants to be when he grow up. He writes what he want I was reading it to check if he do it right and I found out that he wants to be a pilot someday wow!!! not bad driving a plane. Well kids usually pick that kind of dream being a pilot. Then I remember my 6Th grader that is his dream also to be a pilot. When he was 3 years old he was driving a three wheeled bike even if fell he is not giving up standing up and ride again until he perfect it and when he is 4 years old he knows how to drive a bicycle learning on his own falling and getting some scratch on his knee is not a big deal to him as long as he will learn it. Were in the construction site then when someone left his bicycle my son took it and ride it some of our worker saw it and told us what's happening were rushing to see him and found out that his really riding that bike. He learn to ride it on his own happiness came out into my heart knowing that he is one of a kind after all what happen he took the bike to us and told us to return the bike to it's owner. Only words that came out to my mouth is next time don't get anything that's not belong to you ask permission first but I'm happy that you know how to ride it. That memories, I will not ever forget teaching them to achieve what they want will help them build a dream that they will guide them to be a better person someday. As a mother I always help them to do their home work doing that I discover who they really are knowing them better and deeper. I know were too busy on our job and some of us are forgetting that we have to spend even a little time to our children thinking there future is not enough if we did not know how to be apart of their lives.

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Show you love them

Talk, sing, play, and read with your child every day.

  • Talk and sing with your child, as this is a first step in language development.
  • Understand that singing and listening to music is good for your child’s development.
  • Provide a safe place for your baby or toddler to roll, crawl, and explore. If possible, “child-proof” the entire home.
  • Sit and play on the floor with your child daily, knowing that children learn through play with simple toys and household items such as pots, pans, bowls, and wooden spoons.
  • Recognize that daily supervised outdoor play, including running, climbing, swinging and sliding helps children develop strong bodies and minds.
  • Realize that when you and your child play “pretend” together, she is learning to use her imagination and understand her world.
  • Spend time each day reading to your young child, watching for her cues to continue or quit.
  • Look at books, talk about the pictures and the story; this will teach language and new words.
  • Try different voices for the characters in a book and encourage your child to act out the story.
  • Play rhyming games, recite nursery rhymes and do fingerplays to help your child notice the sounds of words.
  • Help your child notice words and other print in the world around you.
  • Understand that sharing a favorite book with a caring adult can provide comfort to a child, as well as a love of books and reading.
  • Limit TV watching and when you allow your child to watch, sit with him and talk about what you see, remembering that young children should not watch the news or adult programs.
  • Get a free library card so that you can visit the library often and check out a variety of books.

Make sure your children know they are loved!

  • Show love with hugs, smiles, kisses, talking and looking directly into your baby’s eyes.
  • Remember that your baby cries to communicate with you.
  • Understand that giving attention to a baby is not spoiling; when you respond to your baby’s cries and coos consistently, his learning is stimulated and he develops trust.
  • Talk to your baby even before she seems to be able to understand what you are saying, and she will soon talk back to you.
  • Imitate his coos and sounds; diaper changing, feeding, bathing and dressing are good times for you to talk with your young child.
  • Say your child’s name in a cheerful, caring voice.
    Really listen when your child talks to you.
  • Avoid calling your child names when discussing her behavior.
  • Encourage and support your child by showing appreciation for his accomplishments.
  • Improve your child’s self-esteem by teaching her how she can help others.
  • Say “yes” and “I love you” more often than you say “no” or “don’t”.
  • Make sure that your child has regular health exams and receives all appropriate immunizations (shots).
  • Seek help from specialists if you have concerns about your child’s development or need extra help during times of family stress.

Demonstrate in ways she can understand that she is unique and special to you.

Simple Tips on how to discipline a child,

Learn What They Live
If a child lives with criticism,
he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
he learns to find love in the world.
By Dorothy Law Nolte

As a parent sometimes it's really difficult for us to dicipline a child. We ask our selves sometimes if we do the right thing. Many of us do it without thinking, we must control our emotions coz if not we may regret it in the end. Parents are the role model for our children, they observe us and immitate what we do, so be careful of doing anything.... We love our children isn't it? So we must dicipline them with love, don't ignore them, give time for them even little of your time were really appriciated so much. Sometimes we parents does not show our love to our children try to say their no harm in doing it. I have simple tips here for us parents on how we dicipline our children.
  • Remain calm and discipline with love and consistency.
  • Understand that discipline should teach, not punish; it is setting limits with both firmness and kindness.
  • Show respect for your child so that he will learn respect for others.
  • Learn about stages of child development so that you will know what behavior you can expect at different ages.
  • Prepare your child for new situations, so that he will know what you expect and feel confident and secure.
  • Create dependable, predictable routines for your child.
  • Encourage exploration and curiosity in safe surroundings.
  • Remember that infants and toddlers test limits because of their curiosity and eagerness to learn, not to make you angry.
  • Distract and redirect your child’s attention when his behavior is unacceptable.
  • Encourage positive behavior by using positive guidance techniques.
  • If necessary, short time outs (no longer than 1 minute per year of the age of the child) can help you and your child regain self-control.
  • Remember that spanking, hitting or shouting may stop behavior immediately but may teach that violence is the way to settle issues.

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Saying I love You in different languages

Valentines Day!
I was with my husband an hour ago. We decided to celebrate our valentines day by going to church and renewing our "vows". Theirs a mass and many couple are also there like us renewing our Vows and also thanking our creator for all those years that we spent together. I was really happy that there are gathering like that for married couple to be united once again infront of the altar reminising all that we've been thru all these years. I almost cry on thanking God for giving me such a wonderful husband nothing to ask for more but all I want for that moment is to thank him for all the blessing that he showered me. I did'nt say that it was a perfect marriage but I am happy for what is going on with us, in our relationship not only as couple but also as friends.... This is the first time I experience this and my friend who invited me to go their said that this is only done the 2nd time it was last year that they started celebrating this occassion. Wonderful is'nt it .... And when I got home still in the middle of happiness I am thingking on how our people say I Love You in their special way... like by saying it in different languages so when I got home I try to search it on the web and trying to collect it little by little until I gather it all. Different countries , different languages even dialects wow... It was so amazing that even if it's different way to say it their is only one meaning in all. "Saying how you feel is very important and saying how you love someone makes that person really happy... It's really great also how to be love this is the reason we still living and surviving... So don't hesitate to say you love that person try to make yourself happy.
Here are the thing I got hope we all enjoy reading and learning it....
Happy reading..............

Africa Language "I Love You" Translation

Afrikaans - Eh het jao lief
Afrikaans - Ek is lief vir jou
Akan ( Ghana ) - Me we do
Amharic - Ene ewedechalu ( for ladies )
Amharic - Ene ewedehalwe (for men)
Arabic - Ana Ahebak (to a male)
Arabic - Ana Ahebak (to female)
Arabic(Formal) - Ooheboki (to a female)
Arabic(For mal) - Oooheboka (to a male)
Arabic - b'n hebbak
Arabic - Ana Ba-heb-bak
Arabic - Nhebuk
Bari ( A Sudanese Language) - Nan nyanyar do ( I love you)
Bari - Nan nyanyar do parik (I love you very much )
Berber - Lakh tirikh
Creole - Mon kontan ou
Ga - misumo bo
Hausa - Ina sonki
Hausa - Ina kau narki (to female)
Hausa - Ina kau narka (to male)
Kikuyu - Nigwedete
Kisii - Ninguanchete
Lingala - Nalingi yo
Luganda - nkwagala nyo
Luo -Aheri
Malagasy (Madagascar) - tiako ianao
Ndebele - Ngiyakuthanda
Oshiwambo - Ondi ku hole
Mbe - ku suvera
Punu - ni u rondi
Shona - Ndinokuda
Sotho - Kegorata
Setswana - Ka gorata
Swahili - Nakupenda
Thamazigh - nekki hemlagh (from a woman to a man)
Thamazigh - nekki hemlaghkem (from a man to a woman)
Tigrinia - E fatuwaki
Tunisian - Ha eh bak
Wolof -Dama la nob
Wolof - Dama nob danga
Wolof - Nob naa la
Xhosa - ndiyakuthanda
Yoruba - Mo ni ife re
Zazi - Ezhele hezdege
Zulu - Mena Tanda Wena
Zulu - Ngiyakuthanda!

Asia Language "I Love You" Translation

Arabic - Ana Behibak (to a male)
Arabic - Ana Behibek (to a female)
Arabic - Ib'n hebbak
Arabic - Ana Ba-heb-bak
Arabic - Nhebuk
Arabic (formal) - Ooheboki (to a female)
Arabic (formal) - Ooheboka (to a male)
Assamese - Moi tomak bhal pau
Azerbaijani - Men seni sevirem
Batak - Holong rohangku di ho
Bengali - Ami tomay bhalobashi
Bengali - Ami tomake bhalobashi
Bicol - Namumutan ta ka
Bisaya (Filipino dialect) - Gihigugma ta ka
Burmese - chit pa de
Cambodian - Bong salang oun
Cambodian -kh_nhaum soro_lahn nhee_ah
Cantonese -Ngo Oi Lei
Cebuano -Gihigugma ko ikaw
Chinese -wo aì ni
Farsi -Tora dust midaram
Farsi (Persian) -Asheghet Hastam (romantic)
Farsi (Persian) -Dooset Daram (parent to child)
Filipino -mahal Kita
Filipino -Iniibig Kita
Gujarati -Hoon tane prem karun chuun
Hindi - main tumse pyar karta hoon (guy)
Hindi - main tumse pyar karti hoon (girl)
Hindi (Kannada) - Naanu ninnannu premisuththene
Hmong - Kuv Hlub Koj
Hokkien - Wa ai lu
Illonggo(Filipino dialect) - palangga ta ka
Ilocano (Filipino dialect) -Ay aya tenka
Indonesian - Saja kasih saudari
Indonesian - Saya Cinta Kamu
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Indonesian - Aku cinta padamu
Japanese - Kimi o aishiteru (male to female)
Japanese - Aishiteru
Japanese - Ora omee no koto ga suki da (Northeastern dialetct)
Japanese - Ore wa omae ga suki da (Male to Female)
Japanese - Suitonnen (Western dialect)
Japanese - Sukiyanen (Western dialect)
Japanese -Sukiyo (Female to Male)
Japanese - Suki desu (used at 1st time, like for a start, when you are not yet real lovers)
Javanese (Indonesian dialect) -aku tresno marang sliromu
Javanese (Indonesian dialect) - kulo tresno marang sampean
Javanese (Indonesian dialect) - Kulo tresno kaleH panjenengan.
Kachiy - anw toke pyaar karati
Kachiy - anw toke bowaj gurati
Kapampangan (Filipino dialect) - kaluguran da ka
Korean - Nooreul sarang hae (casual relation)
Korean - Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (i like you, in a romantic way)
Korean - Jeonun Dangshinul Sarang Hapnida
Korean -Jeonun Dangshinul Mucheok Joahapnida
Korean - Nanun Niga Joa
Korean -Nanun Neoreul Saranghe
Korean - Nanun Neoreul Saranghanda
Korean - Neoreul Hjanghan Naemaeum Alji
Lao -Khoi huk chau
Luo - Aheri
Maduranese (Indonesian dialect) - sengko' tero ka be'na
Malay - Saya Cinta Mu (pronounced: Saya Chinta Mu)
Malay -Saya sayangkan mu
Malay/Indonesian - Saya sayangkan engkau
Malay/Indonesian -Saya cintakan awak
Malayalam - Njyaan Ninne' Preetikyunnu
Malayalam - Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu
Malayalam - Ngan Ninne Snaehikkunnu
Malaysian - Saya Cintamu
Malaysian - Saya Sayangmu
Malaysian - Saya Cinta Kamu
Malaysian - Aku Cinta Padamu
Mandarin - Wo Ai Ni
Marathi - me tujhashi prem karto (male to female)
Marathi - me tujhashi prem karte (female to male)
Marathi - Mi tuzya var prem karato
Mienh - Yie hum may
Mongolian - bi chamd hairtai
Nepali - Ma timilai maya garchu, Ma timilai man parauchu
Persian - Tora dost daram
Persian - Ashegetam
Punjabi - Mai taunu pyar karda
Punjabi - Main Tainu Pyar Karna
Sinhalese - Mama oyata adarei
Sudanese (Indonesian dialect) - Abdi bogoH ka anjeun
Tagalog (Filipino dialect) - Mahal kita
Tagalog (Filipino dialect) - Sinisinta kita
Taiwanese - Wah ai ni
Tamil - Ni yaanai kaadli karen (You love me)
Tamil - n'an unnaik kathalikkinren (I love you)
Tamil - Naan unai kathaleakarenn
Telugu - Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanu
Telugu/India - Nenu Ninnu Premistunnanu
Thai - Ch'an Rak Khun
Thai - Phom Rak Khun
Urdu - Mein tumhay pyar karti hun (woman to man)
Urdu - Mein tumhay pyar karta hun (man to woman)
Urdu - mujhe aap se mohabbat hai
Uzbek - Man seni sevaman
Vietnamese - Em ye'u anh (woman to man)
Vietnamese - Toi yeu em
Vietnamese - Anh ye'u em (man to woman)

Oceania Language "I Love You" Translation

Australian - I Love you, mate (Ok, they don't say mate)
Chamorru (Guam & northern Mariana Islands) - Hu Guiya Hao (pronounced: who gwai-dza how)
Gilbertese (The Republic of Kiribati) - itangiriko
Maori (New Zealand) - kia hoahai
Pidgin English - mi laikim yu
Samoan - Oute Alofa Ia Te Oe
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tongan - Ofa atu

Greenland Language "I Love You" Translation

Eskimo - Nagligivaget
Greenlandic - Asavakit
Icelandic - ég elska þig
Icelandic - Mér þykir vænt um þig

Caribbean Language "I Love You" Translation
Cayman - I love You
Cayman - You conch me out!
Creole (Haiti) - mwen renmem'w
Creole (Haiti) - mwen damou'w
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Papiamento (Aruba) - Mi Ta Stimabo
Papiamentu (Curacao) - Mi Stima Bo
Patois (Jamaica) - Mi luv yuh
Spanish - Te quiero (I really-really care for you)
Spanish - Te Amo
French - Je t'aime

Europe Language "I Love You" Translation

Albanian - Të Dua Shume
Alsacien - Ich hoan dich gear
Armenian - Yes Kezi Seeroom yem
Armenian - kezi shad ge seerem anoushig
Armenian - kezi ge sirem
Basc - Nere Maitea (basque?)
Bavarian - I mog di narrisch gern
Bulgarian - ahs te obicham
Catalan - T'estim (mallorcan)
Catalan - T'estim molt (I love you a lot)
Catalan - T'estime (valencian)
Catalan - T'estimo (catalonian)
Circassian - wise cas
Corsican - Ti tengu cara (to female)
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Czech - Miluju Te! (colloquial form)
Danish - Jeg elsker dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
English - I Love You
English - I adore you
Estonian - M ina armastan sind
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Finnish - Minä rakastan sinua
Finnish - Minä pidän sinusta (friendly)
Flemish - Ik zie u graag
Flemish - Ik aanbid u
French - Je t'aime
French - Je t'adore (I adore you)
Friesian - Ik hald fan dei
Gaelic - Tha gradh agam ort
Georgian - me shen mikhvarkhar
German - Ich liebe Dich
German (Swiss) - Ich liäbä Dich
German - Ich hab'dich lieb (friendly)
German - Ich bin in dich verknallt (teen slang)
Greek - S' agapo
Hebrew - Ani ohev otach (male to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev otcha (male to male)
Hebrew - Ani ohevet otach (female to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohevet otcha (female to male)
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Hungarian - Szeretlek te'ged
Icelandic - ég elska þig
Irish - taim i' ngra leat
Italian - ti amo
Italian - ti voglio bene (friendly)
Italian (Venetian Dialect) - Te vogio bén
Latin - Te amo
Latin - Vos amo
Latin (Ego) - amo te (ego, for emphasis)
Latvian - Es tevi Milu (s teh-vih me-lu)
Lisbon - lingo Gramo-te bue chavala (for girls)
Lisbon - lingo Gramo-te bue chavale (for boys)
Lithuanian - As Tave Myliu (as ta-ve mee-lyu)
Luxembourgisch - Ech hun dëch gäer
Osetian (Ego) - amo te (ego, for emphasis)
Macedonian - Te sakam
Madrid - lingo gramo-te bue', chavalinha
Maltese - Inhobbok
Norwegian - Jeg elsker deg (pronounced: yei elsker dei)
Norwegian - Jeg er glad i deg (to someone you are not married to)
Polish - Kocham Cie
Polish - Ja cie kocham
Portuguese - Eu amo-te
Romanian - Te iu besc
Romanian - Te Ador
Russian - Ya vas lyublyu
Russian - Ya tyebya Lyublyu
Russian - Ya polyubil tebia (male to female)
Scot - Gaelic Tha gra'dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim Te
Slovak - L'ubim t'a
Slovak - Milujem t'a
Slovene - Ljubim te
Slovene - Rada te imam (female to male, female to female)
Slovene - Rad te imam (male to female, male to male)
Spanish - Te amo
Spanish - Te quiero
Swedish - Jag älskar dig
Swiss-German - ich liäbä dich
Swiss-German - ich ha di gärn
Turkish - Seni seviyorum
Tyrolean (Tyrol, Austria) - I liab Di
Tyrolean (Tyrol, Austria) - I mog Di
Ukrainian - ja tebe kokhaju (real true love)
Ukrainian - ja vas kokhaju
Ukrainian - ja pokokhav tebe
Ukrainian - ja pokokhav vas
Upper Austrian (German dialect) - Hob di lieb (friendly)
Upper Austrian (German dialect) - I steh mas voi af di
Welsh - Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ich libe dich
Yiddish - Ich han dich lib

Middle East Language "I Love You" Translation

Arabic - Ana Behibak (to a male)
Arabic - Ana Behibek (to a female)
Arabic - Ib'n hebbak
Arabic - Ana Ba-heb-bak
Arabic - Nhebuk
Arabic - Ohiboke (male to female)
Arabic - Ohiboka (female to male)
Arabic - Ohibokoma (male or female to two males or two females)
Arabic - Nohiboke (more than one male or female to female)
Arabic - Nohiboka (male to male or female to male)
Arabic - Nohibokoma (m. to m. or f. to two males or two females)
Arabic - Nohibokom (m. to m. or f. to more than two males)
Arabic - Nohibokon (m. to m. or f. to more than two females)
Arabic (not standard) - Bahibak (female to male)
Arabic (not standard) - Bahibek (male to female)
Arabic (not standard) - Benhibak (more than one male or female to male)
Arabic (not standard) - Benhibek (male to male or female to female)
Arabic (not standard) - Benhibkom (m. to m. or female to more than one male)
Assyrian - ana bayanookh (female to male)
Assyrian - ana bayinakh (male to female)
Assyrian - ana bayanakh (female to female)
Assyrian - ana byinookh (male to male)
Circassian - wise cas
Farsi - Dooset Daram
Hebrew - Ani ohev otach (male to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev otcha (male to male)
Hebrew - Ani ohevet otach (female to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohevet otcha (female to male)
Kurdish - Ez te hezdikhem
Kurdish - Tom hojdeve
Persian - Dooset Daram
Persian - Ashegetam
Sindhi - Maa Tossa Pyaar Kando Aaya (male to female)
Sindhi - Maa Tossa Pyaar Kandee Aaya (female to male)
Syrian/Lebanese - Bhebbek (to a female)
Syrian/Lebanese - Bhebbek (to a male)
Turkish - Seni seviyorum
Yiddish - Ich libe dich
Yiddish - Ich han dich lib

North America Language "I Love You" Translation

Canadian French - Je t'aime
Cheyenne - Néméhotâtse
English - I love you
English - I adore you
Hawaiian - Aloha wau i'a oe
Hebrew - Ani ohev otach (male to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev otcha (male to male)
Hebrew - Ani ohevet otach (female to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohevet otcha (female to male)
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Mohawk - Konoronhkwa
Ojibwe - Niin Zaagii Giin
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Sioux (Lakota) - Techihhila
Spanish - Te quiero
Spanish - Te Amo
Yiddish - Ich libe dich
Yiddish - Ich han dich lib
Zuni - Tom ho' ichema
Other Translations Language "I Love You" Translation
Akadian Iaka Lakaovakae Yakaou
Elven - Amin sinta lle
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Gibberish - idaguy lidaguv yidagoo
Goth - Idugi Ludugove Udagu
Guir - Kari Bari (guy to girl)
Guir - Krai-Brai (girl to guy)
Ishkibibble - Ibi Libove Yibou
Klingon - qud'end
Klingon - qaparha' (depends from where you are in the galaxy)
Lancish - I Lovole Youan
Lojban - mi do prami
Naguan - Mawaca bimcheepee
Op - I Lopovope Yopou
Pig Latin - Ie Ovele Ouye (I-ay Ovel-ay Ouy-ay)
Quenya - Tye-melan'ne
Sliggish - Iish loveish youish
Spencish - I Lovany Yoof
South America Language "I Love You" Translation
Guarani - rohayhu
Portuguese (Brasilian) - Eu te amo
Portuguese (Brasilian) - Eu amo você
Bolivian - Quechua qanta munani (spoken, sounds like this)
Ecuador - Quechua canda munani
Spanish - Te amo
Sranan - Mi lobi joe

Other world-wide "I love you" translations available:

afrikaans bari lingala sudanese swahili tunisian zulu more
chinese cambodian japanese hindi farsi korean punjabi thai more
australian tahitian bicol
czech dutch french italian polish russian serbian more
Middle East:
arabic hebrew kurdish syrian turkish more
North America:
hawaiian navaho sioux zuni spanish french canadian more
South America:
bolivian ecuador spanish portugese
cayman l french l jamaican l spanish

esperanto lojban klingon pig latin op quenya
View the entire list of translations

Sunday, January 13, 2008


A Successful marriage is one whee relationship are balanced - where husbands love their wives and wives respect and work in cooperation with teir husbands, fulfilling God's plan for their lives.


Commandment number one: Thou shalt make the building of thy home thy first business. Your home, men, is more important than your business, than your friends and associates. But often by our actions, our home and family comes pretty far down the list of unwritten priorities in life.

Are you like the president of an insurance company who once told me, "When it comes to business I've been quite successful. There are 2,000 employees in my company for whom I am directly responsible but when it comes to my home and family, I'm afraid that I have been a miserable failure." William Lyon Phelps had this truth in mind when he wrote these Every man who is happily married is a successful man even if he has failed in everything else."

Our hindsight is so better than our foresight. Too often we see our mistakes too late to correct them. We've come too close to the brink to avoid disaster. Our life flashes before us, too late to swerve to avoid the head-on collision with disaster. Or is there hope?

Men, let me share with you a little slogan that may help you decide when you feel conflict between your home and family and your business. It's this: Duties do not conflict in the will of God. There is only one right thing to do! Your responsibility to your family shouln't be in conflict with the oblogation to yur employer, but there are times when you have to say, "No!" So the real question is, "What comes first? Which is my responsibility at this moment?"


Following the importance of keeping your priorities straight comes commandments number two: Thou shalt remember that thy wife halt need of more than food, clothing and shelter. When I ask men to make a list of their wives' needs, the first three item usually listed are food, clothes - (as husbandsay to himself, "Yeah, and she's got a closet full of 'em too"), and a roof over her head.

But what about emotional needs? The ness for companionship, the need for a friend. "I know my husband loves me," said an acquaintance, "but we are not very good friends." Why? Her husband as the head of a large organization was gone a great deal, and when he was home, he had a multitude of things on his mind.

"If any man," wrote Apostle Paul,"provides not for his own(including his wife!) ans specially for those of his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel" (!Tim. 5:8). Strong words of counsel.


The third commandmant for husband is the shortest in term of lenght, but one of the most enduring in term of lasting results. It is this: Thou shalt not take your wife for granted. A few years ago Irving Berlin penned the nostalgic words of the popular song which was often sung at weddings:" I'll be loving you always, with a love that's true, always...."Bing Crosby used to croon the words and hearts went "Whoosh!" with sentimentality.

But no matter how touching the words are, they just are not true. Love in our human relationship is not eternal, and 1 corithians which says"Love never fails" doesn't say that love is eternal. Love that you have in your heart for someone can endure for eternity, but love can be killed. Ask any judge who hears cases involving domestic affairs if love is eternal and he'll tell you that love can be destroyed. Love must be kept alive, day by day by day. Acts of kindness and thoughtfulness say, "I don't take you for granted. I still love you. See?"


Commandment number four: Thou shalt not think thy business is none of thy wife's business. Remember your wife is your partner, not your property. A man who starts out with that attitude is well on the road to happiness in marriage.Listen, men, you're in a partnership called marriage. If you joined the Coronary Club and took a one-way trip to the mortuary, your wife would not only be hearthbroken, but would put a terrible hardship for them and financial loss by "not wanting to burden them with money matters," as they had considered it. If you own a carand pay taxes, you ought to have a will.Your wife deserves to know! If you own even a small piece of property, you need to get legal advice on how it should be titled. If you have any kind of an estate, you need sound advice so that in the event of a death, it doesn't all go to sharp attorneys and legal expenses.

I'm convinces that it takes nothing less than a 100 percent commitment to each other if your marriage is to be a real success.


Commandment number five: Thou shalt not deal grudgingly with thy wife. Half of the money is hers. You shalt not ask an accounting of every coin unless you make similar accounting to her. Give each other enough room to breathe and to exercise some individuality. "I feel smoothered" is the way that some one wives put it. They may say, "I've been on my own for ten years and now that I'm married, I have to give my husband an accounting of every coin I spend and every moment of my time. I feel like I'm a little girl who has to report to her daddy."

Money in marriage - or the lack of it, as the case may be - is the number one problem in marriage. But it is like the tip of the icebeg that hides deeper insecurities and frustrations. Money problems are one of the first symptoms of deeper frustrations. It's wise to try to let each other be individuals who love each other and are commited to the oneness of marriage which God designs. Give each other enough room to breathe and breathing room includes finances within reason.


And now the sixth commandment for your husbands. Thou shalt cooperate with thy wife in establishing family dicipline. Wives are quick to say that this is one of the three greatest areas of concern. When Christian Family magazine recently interviewed a cross section of Christian families weret he same as secular ones, they found that the first area od concern was in knowing how to effectively communicate. The second, how to convey christian values to their children. The thrid, how to effectively dicipline their children.

Divide the conquer is not only an age-old tactic in walfare, but it is also the subtle strategy of small fry who have never heard a war colleges and nuetron bombs. These pint-sized little cherubs who stand barely higher than your knee are shrewd in playing parents against each other. Kids know that if they can play parents against each other, they've won the battle. Discipline is one of the tender areas of a couple's relationship. Listen, Dads, don't you leave the discipline to your wife, and don't you dare to fail in backing her up if you want to make your a happy home. Enough said!


Commandment number seven: Thou shalt not complain thy wife's cooking for it will be as discord in thy household harmony. A little boy who sat listening to his father's complain't about the evening meal, with the innocence of a four-year-old, said, "Daddy, did God hear us when we prayed a little while ago before we began to eating?" The father snapped, "Of course, son!" Then the boy asked, "Did he hear what you just said, Daddy...?" Falling into the snare of his own words, the father answered, "Certainly!" "Well then, Daddy," said a little bot, "Which is He going to believe?"

The college that I attended had a student handbook and listed among the rules for student was the folowing: "Contructive suggestion are appreciated; griping will not be tolerated." They meant it, too! They had discovered that a complaining, destructive spirit is contagious and can ruin a student body, but positive suggestions can make a campus a better place for everyone.


Number eight of ten commandment for husbanbds: Thou shalt enter into thy house with cheerfullness. Always remember that your wife thought she married a man, not a bear. You may have heard of the man who never took of his hat, that is, until he swept his wife into his arms and had given her a kiss as he came home each evening. "Well, can't a man come into his own home and just be at home?" Sure you can, men! But try showing the same courtesy and respect to the members of your own family that you havefor the folks at the office. Your home should be like a castle where you can retreat at the end of a day and leave the world behind, but it is a lot more pleasant place to live in if you can bring a little sunshine through the door with you. Sunshine is contagious! But gloom clouds showere depression!


Tuesday, December 11, 2007


In-deference to you who still believe in that old fashioned bit of chivalry--Ladies first!-- may I share with you ten commandment for you wives and ten commandments for you husbands.


Commandments number one: Thou shalt honor thy own woman hood that thy days may be long in the house which thy husband provides for thee. It sounds almost as if that bit of prose came from the pen of a woman libber, or an advocate of woman's rights, but it is actually the very embodiment of Christianity which elevates the status of womanhood . Jesus Christ broke radically with some of the contemporary ideas about woman. Unlike the rabbis who chose not to touch a dead person or a woman, Christ included woman such us Mary, Martha, Mary Magdalene and others in the ranks of his followers. Paul wrote in Galatians 3:28 that in Christ there is no such things as inequality of the sexes but we are one in His sight. That does not for a moment eliminate the differences in role or design which are God-determined differences complementing the roles and relationships of men and women, but don't you women, ever be ashamed that you are woman.

It was a woman who gave birth to God=s Son on that first Christmas morn. Women were last at the cross and first at the tomb. Jesus pronounced immorality on only one person - a woman who wept over His feet and wipe them with the tresses of her hair. Guidelines or commandment number one is a good one: Honor your womanhood and never be ashamed of it.


Commandment number two smacks of modern economics. Here it is: Thou shalt not expect thy husband to give thee as many things as thy father halt given thee after many years of hard work and economies. Neither become extravagant with a charge account, for thee comes a day when your husband will have to O.K. it, and then comes the storm. On the practical side of the ledger, it is wise to remember that two can't live as cheaply as one, and neither is it right to expect to live off the charity of your parents and in-laws. A measure of patience as a couple begin to plan for their own goal is absolutely necessary.


The third commandment for wives is: Thou shalt not forget the virtue of good humor, for verily all that a man halt will he give for a woman's smile. Not a bad advice for a husbands and wife. Humor is a great thing to relieve tension - especially when unexpected things go wrong. The parked truck leaps out and hits the side of your car. Or the gate blows shut and scrapes the side. The phone rings and the delay in hearing about Joan's mother-in-law lets your dinner go up in smoke. You over draw the bank account, and the notice from the bank is a painful reminder that you are in trouble. What do you do whens like that happen? Yell at each other? Point a finger and say, " How could you do that? Your just plain..." Or smile and remind your self, "Nobody plans these things!" How foolish it is to think anything other than it just appened!

Being able to smile at our mistakes is not only a sign of maturity but goes a long way towards creating harmony in a home.

The third commandments is in the attitude of Scripture which say: Consider one another, and let us provoke or encourage each other to good works. Not bad!


Commandment number four: Thou shalt not nag! Four words that can mean the difference between your husband making a queen out of you, or thinking of you as a constant complainer. Real love contains with it the complete acceptance of a person as he is with the hpe that he will change, but never let it be spoiled by the nagging of someone who is determined to change another. "it is better to live in the corner of an attic," say proverbs, "than with a crabby woman in a lovely home," (Proverbs 21:9, L.B.).


Commandment number five: Thou shalt please thy husband for verily every man loveth to be fussed over. Is it really a good idea for a woman to pamper her man? How aout a husband who spoils his wife? One of the reason that God puts us together in families is to meet the ever-present need to encourage and support each other. Of course, a wife may do her husband just as much good by pointing out his faults occasionally but that treatment is very seldom necessary. We need to learn to support each other. We need to learn to encourge one other. To build each other up. To help each other have greater confidence.

There is generally enough in life that is self-defeating. Enough that discourge without getting more of it at home. Learn to be positive in your relationship in the home. If it isn't kind, don't say it. If it doesn't encourage, then discipline your speech. If that means pampering your husband, then get with it. If it means spoiling him, do it with abandonment.


Remember that the frank approval of thy husband is worth more to thee the sidelong glances of many strangers. 'She that is married," wrote the Apostle Paul, "careth.... how she may please her husband"( I Cor. 7:34). And when she stops caring, a relationship is in trouble. Priorities are tremendously important, and when a multitude of demands are made on your time, it is easy to let hubby get lost in the shuffle!

There is a time and a place for everything, suggests the writer of proverbs, so whether it is the way you dress or what you do with your time, the frank approval of your husbands means more than the flattering glances or comment of many strangers.


Commandments number seven: Thou shalt not forget the grace of cleanliness and neat dress. Women, don't dare think , "Now that there married, I've got him hooked." and then let down when it comes to your appearance. Fewer husbands would be tempted to look twice at another woman if their wives made an effort to remain attractive. Your motive should never be to keep yur husband, but because you love him, you want to keep yourself beautiful for him. The apostle Peter tells how womwn of the Old Testament days made themselves attractive to their husbands by - what really vounts - the adornment that stems from within, the beauty that knows no wrinkles and never fades.


Commandments number eight: Thou shalt not permit anyone to assure thee thou art having a hard time of it - neither your mother, nor sister, nor aunt nor any of your kins, for the judge will not hold her guiltless who allows another disparage her husband.

We hang together or else we hang seperately! There are times when we all make miatakes, when we are wrong, but when it comes to marriage , loyalty is imperative.Real love looks beyond the immediate to the far-reaching goals and objectives of an enduring relationship.

Don't allow yourself the indulgence of dwelling on the faults or failure of your mates - especilly when those weaknesses and idiosyncrasies of character are criticized by relatives and friends.

"Don't you know my mother talked about my husband for a solid hour on the phone," a woman once told me.

"Yes, and do you know how you could have eliminated 59 minutes of her criticism"? I asked.

"No. How?"

"By telling her, I know that bob's not perfect, but, mother, criticizing him doesn't help, and I'd rather not talk about it. O.K.?'"


Number nine: Thou shalt keep thy home with all diligence, for out of it cometh the joys of old age. I've never met a husband who didn't prefer coming home to a neat and orderly house especially when so much of life is topsy-turvy. Your talking time to keep things as neatand clean as possible is another way of saying,"I live you, I love you enough to make our home as pleasant and as attractive as possible."


And ten: Thou shalt commit thy ways unto the Lord thy God, and thy children shall rise up and call thee blessed. As the months and years roll by, every wife is confronted with challenges to her faith and her home. And you will be no exception. Your faith and trust in the Lord can be an anchor that will hold in the stroms of life. You can trust in the Lord and let him direct your path (see Proverb 3:5-6).

And there you have TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR WIVES......